Closure in the Dungeon of Uncertainty: Powerful Way Out!

Hey Love, bring on your sunny glow…

Do you believe we’ve wasted so much time seeking closure? If there’s one piece of advice I’d give to young people, especially young women, it’s not to waste their time in pursuit of closure. When someone makes it unequivocally clear they don’t want you in their life, no matter how much it hurts, gather what remains of your dignity and walk away. That person may have been signaling it for some time, not necessarily through words but actions. Leave without looking back. Don’t demean yourself, not now. Closure, in its own time, will find you amidst tears and laughter until your heart heals.

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Letting It Be

I’ve had my fair share of relationship fallouts, often seeking closure in moments of anguish. As I’m certain many of you have experienced, I wasted precious time dissecting every detail, every moment, trying to comprehend how I ended up here. Only to realize, it had made me miserable and led me to question my own truth; it didn’t help nor add value to my state of mind at that time. The truth is, it doesn’t really matter; what truly matters is that the person no longer wants you.

The problem with analyzing and over-analyzing a broken relationship is that it holds onto hope, false hope, revealing that you’re not yet ready to let go. Once you accept this at face value, you can begin your journey toward healing. Don’t invest your time on people who don’t value you. I wish someone had shared this wisdom with me in my younger years, and maybe if they did, I don’t think I listened.

“It’s not a matter of letting go, you would if you could. Instead of ‘Let it go’ we should probably say ‘Let it be”. ~ Jon Kabat-Zinn

Simple and Complicated 

When I say to walk away, I don’t mean to imply it’s easy, not for a second. Is it easy? Absolutely not. But if you remind yourself that the person no longer wants you, you’ll find the courage to move forward and not look back. If they insist on keeping in touch, ask yourself why. Be honest in your answer. Then pose the same question to them. Regardless of their response, deception likely lurks beneath the surface. Staying in contact only exposes your vulnerabilities, allowing them to manipulate your emotions further. Wouldn’t you agree this is a recipe for disaster? In essence, it’s a surefire way to waste time and delay closure. When you let closure trap you in the dungeons, a world of uncertainty just hovers over you.

“Surrender is a journey from outer turmoil to inner peace.” ~   Sri Chinmoy

My Outlook

People often say that relationships are hard, and I understand why they say that. However, the right people who genuinely want to be in your life will love you for who you are, embracing your ups and downs. They will prioritize communication, work through challenges, and safeguard your relationship. Yes, it requires effort, but it’s the kind of work you willingly undertake because of your love for that person and your belief in your relationship. On the other hand, those who enter your life with half-hearted intentions come to disrupt your stability. They’re unsure of what they want, or if they do, it’s only temporary.

Even if you believe you are owed an apology, it may only be given when the person is ready to accept the consequences of their actions. Oftentimes, it never happens. Meanwhile, you must move on and live your life fully and unapologetically. Don’t waste any more time on something you have no control over. This mindset will save you from much suffering and confusion. This mindset will help you grow!

Final Thoughts

Next time you find yourself lost and trying to over-analyze the actions leading to a breakup, remember that you don’t need to do that, nor do you need to seek closure alone. Don’t let closure trap you in the dungeons. Break free and go get yourself a cup of coffee, preferably a fresh one!

Let reality be just what it is. There’s no need to overanalyze people’s intentions or silence at the expense of your own peace of mind. Let it be, learn from what unfolds, and move forward. Life is waiting, and you can still be amazing!

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